A Journey to Self-Discovery and Connection
A Deep Dive into the Magic of Self-Help Groups
Explore the powerful transformations of Jennifer and Arezoo through their participation in a Selfhelpgroup. A journey from doubt to self-awareness – dive into how this community has transformed their lives!
What led you to join a Self-Help Group?
Jennifer: Before joining the Support Group, I constantly felt pressured to perform and, in a way, as if I was always lagging behind, struggling to catch up with life and to be sufficient in all aspects of my life. Both personally and at work and in school. I consistently compared my inner self to others’ external representations, especially on social media and in professional settings. Somehow, I truly believed that I was alone in feeling anxiety or full of self-doubt. It was as if I would always be inferior to everyone else in handling life.
Arezoo: I have always been fascinated by having deep and intimate conversations as a way to explore myself and understand how the human being works in general. Here at Solkatten, I’ve had the great opportunity to meet people I wouldn’t have had the chance to encounter anywhere else. It felt like stepping out of my little bubble and allowing myself to be inspired by others’ life stories, all while experiencing a significant sense of recognition. It helped me feel secure in my own existence and where I could contribute to creating security in the world.
What specific changes have you noticed in yourselves since you started participating in Self-Help groups?
Jennifer: A significant change for me has been the courage to be fully myself in conscious presence with others. The group has provided me with a real experience of daring to express myself in all aspects of life and together with others. I no longer feel alone but know that many of us struggle to piece together life’s puzzle and feel like we are enough as partners, friends, colleagues, family members, and, well, as humans. I would liken the Self-help group to meditation. If meditation helps the mind relax and focus, a part of the Self-help Group is practical training in expressing myself, connecting with others, and daring to let go of my fear of not being accepted as I am. Another significant change is that I can finally let other people take responsibility for their own lives, not worrying as much about others. I can show and feel empathy without carrying others’ emotions and problems, which used to weigh me down tremendously.
Arezoo: For me, it has been much about connecting with my authentic self and expressing myself uncensored without fear or worry. It helped me welcome all my emotions, including the most unpleasant and challenging ones. I feel like a responsible agent in creating my life and doing so with even more access to my empowerment. At the same time, I see all other people as equally responsible with empowerment, which made me realize that I don’t need to take responsibility for everyone else’s feelings. Solkatten helped me explore myself on another level, connect with my values and mission in life, and rebuild my life in line with that.
You both mentioned ”Rundan” where you share your thoughts and feelings. Can you tell more about how it has affected you and your interaction with the group?
Jennifer: For me, the Round has been crucial. Previously, I constantly compared myself to others and avoided my own feelings. Now, I’ve learned to handle and embrace both my own and others’ emotions. It’s amazing to feel that I’m not alone in my experiences. Through the Round, I’ve truly practiced and learned to consciously listen without distracted thoughts about something else or what to say next. There’s something magical that happens when we get to talk in full conscious presence together with a group of people who accept us. I’ve experienced an entirely new type of clarity, security, and tranquility in the group that I don’t recognize from anywhere else. When I share in the group, it’s a bit like talking to myself, but since the others are there, it’s as if I suddenly understand what I’m saying instead of just thinking in my own head. After practicing the Round, I realized how different it is from talking with friends in our everyday lives. When we talk to each other normally, so many thoughts are happening simultaneously about what I should say next, what the other thinks about what I’m saying, and what they should say next, and so on. In the Round, all of that disappears, and I get the peace to fully listen to the person speaking, whether it’s myself or someone else sharing from their heart.
Arezoo: Rundan has truly taught me to listen for real. It’s clear to me now that the most valuable thing I can do is to listen and truly absorb what others share while putting myself in their shoes with great admiration. It’s a really important lesson that I carry with me for the rest of my life and has had a significant impact on my way of being in the world and, of course, all my relationships. It has created an even deeper understanding, respect, and love for all fellow human beings.
Finally, what would you say to others considering joining a Self-Help Group?
Jennifer: I would say that it’s one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever done. Sitting in the group is one of the highlights of my week. To share with others, especially to listen to people sharing from their absolute core, feels like a tremendous gift – it’s priceless. The Self-help Group has given me the freedom to dare to be myself just as I am and the strength to resist many of society’s unreasonable expectations. Instead of running away from my perceived inadequacy, I can feel secure and accepted. So, I would say, give it a try!
Arezoo: I wholeheartedly believe in the magic that happens when we, as humans, dare to meet each other in all our vulnerability with all our fears and dreams. It’s a place where I could grow as an individual and create genuine, meaningful relationships with other people. It has truly changed my life profoundly.Reserve you spot nowSee all Grupp starts